Love & Hate

The loving, critical mom. The fun, undependable friend. The supportive, cantankerous boss. Relationships that evoke conflicting feelings may cause more stress than those characterized by outright dislike...

Mature love, some insist, is a broadening, deepening experience. But the claim that love promotes maturity is unpersuasive without some indication that the individual would not have matured just as readily in the absence of love. Indeed, to the extent that love fosters dependency, it may be viewed as a deterrent to maturity.I am not asserting that the effects of love always border on the pathological. I am saying that the person who seeks love in order to obtain security will become, like the alcoholic, increasingly dependent on this source of illusory well-being. The secure person who seeks love would probably not trap himself in this way.

But would the secure person seek love at all?

What’s In Your Heart?

Do you find it difficult to share your innermost thoughts with anyone even your best mate? If someone came up and said they fancied you, would you immediately think that they were joking? Do you try to turn rely on your instincts when you’re making your mind up, and then worry that you’ve not used enough common sense?Do you think that love isn’t meant to be easy?Do you believe that other people are luckier in love then you? Are you too shy to let someone know when you like them?Do you think you’re destined to be unlucky in love unless you make some big change?

The grass is always greener on the other side…so as the older proverb goes – and as far as I’m concerned, it’s true!I think that if I could just change something about myself, then everything would be wonderful.

Luckily, when I’m spouting my resolutions, I know these sort of expectations are pretty hard to live up to.Don’t shy away from the idea of making changes; just don’t be too hard on myself if I fail. Cause I’ve got the whole of the rest of the year to get things right!