Female Friends..Are They A Myth We've Created or Do They Exist?

I've always wondered if anyone has the answers to the age old question about women and men being friends..and only friends.

There is no universal answer to this age old question. Truly platonic relationship is virtually impossible. Attraction is so natural it would get in the way of being friends no matter what. And it both ways, guys fall for gals as much as gals fall for guys. I know I would fall for any single diva out there. Does it matter if we are good pals? Is it fair to ask her out?

It’s a complicated state. For sake of being friends, stop letting your heart dictate over your head. And then ask yourself these questions: Is she attracted to me? (Most gals would say how important you are as a friend in their lives; don’t take it as she has something for you. You just know if she is.) Is she currently looking? (Make sure it’s not rebound, most gals act weird if they are in rebound)Now if you still have to let her know how stupid you are, even after knowing she is not into this, find a way to elude your misery. Just from the experience, developing an image that you are a kind of guy who is never serious and won’t commit to anyone in near future help so much. Now she does not know if you are actually serious?

But on the topic if Men and Women can STAY friends..hmmm, the verdict is still out on that one. Yes, I have a select few female friends with whom nothing has crossed the friendship line. They haven't asked me out, I haven't returned the favor. No admission of liking on both parts.

Sometimes, even if you aren't openly attracted to each other in the beginning. After spending time, platonically chilling together, you realize.."Hey, this girls personality rocks or what a sense of humor." So basically you're doomed either way. I'm not saying that if both parties DO like each other, that it couldn't be a fabulous thing , but once you cross the friend line you really can't go back. Emotions are a very messy thing.

I guess I can sometimes be very naive about if you guys just want to be friends or not. Sometimes the supposed signals are so subtle that I can't tell if you're winking at me or have something stuck in your eye. Do you like me? Or am I just reading into things?